Sunday, April 27, 2008

Easton and Layla finally meet

Good evening all,

If you set your expectations low enough, you'll never be disappointed. That saying is usually followed by a mug shot of some loser who tried to knock over a convenience store. However, today at the Webb house we happily set (and met) our low, low expectations. Kobe (our cat) won the overachiever award for today because he at least made an effort to lift his head and look at the camera long enough to take the picture.

Kendra's shoes in the picture should give some perspective on how huge (and equally lazy) he is. We made it to church this morning... and... ummmm... ok. that's all we did. We are PROUD of it too! Wasting an entire day was exactly what the doctor ordered. Kendra slept in, I took a nap, we watched some basketball, and the rest of the awake time was spent playing with the twins.

You'd think spending 37 weeks in Kendra's belly together and then another 11 weeks feeding, playing, and sleeping together would result in Layla and Easton realizing they are twins. From what we've found that's definitely not the case. They've spent hours laying in the same crib with their heads almost touching without even the slightest acknowledgement of the other baby. Until today, that is... We made it to an unexpected milestone in awareness that was really fun to witness first hand. Kendra laid them facing each other after a nap this afternoon since they are really awake and aware of their surroundings during this time. As they lay there, both of them kicked their legs with excitement while they stared and made noises to the other baby. I imagine they were saying something like, "Hey! You're the only one who understands me around here. Do you want to be friends?"

It's fun to imagine the adventures they'll share together over the years and today was the first day they appeared to recognize there is a play partner around. Later this afternoon as they were hanging out I wanted to get a picture of them in their plaid outfits. I know... they shouldn't have the pacifiers in their mouth because you can't see them smile. BUT, they are so color coordinated and cute that way!

We all had a great weekend and I'm sad to head back to work in the morning because these kind of days are way more fun than work. On a side note, Kendra and I are going through the "Boundaries in Marriage" book and materials with our weekly small group, which is enhancing our marriage even after only a few weeks of reading and discussing. It's hard to comprehend, but contrary to popular belief we DON'T have a perfect marriage. :) What we have are two people willing to make changes. That is one quality in Kendra I've always appreciated and am thankful for: The willingness to change and work on herself and our relationship continually. We'll never really "arrive" or teach marital seminars to large crowds, but as long as we keep working at it and trying, then we're on the right track.

Having Layla and Easton has certainly been difficult and put different pressures on our marriage, but a wise man once said, "It's easier to rely on someone when they are all you have" Knowing that Kendra and I need each other in ways we never did before the twins has brought us closer together. This last picture of us laughing was a blooper from when I took 6 pictures just to get a good one of us kissing. The more I look at it, the more I think this is the best one because it shows us having fun. There was a long time where we didn't have many laughs or much of a friendship to sustain us, but the past couple of years have been transforming and maturing for both of us.

So in closing, i'll leave you with one final relevant quote that Kendra lives out very well: Maturity is not the absence of acting like a child; It's knowing when to act like a child.

Laugh more, love deeper, and live as though today is the last day of your life.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Just wanting to thank you for this wonderful opportunity to see 'inside' a little into your wonderful 4-some. There are always ups and downs in life, and babies are no different. But they are helping give you both a whole new perspective on life; letting God shine through your hands and voices to them. Thanks so much for bringing them to see our Friday lunch group last week! Yours in Him,
John B.